From a psychological perspective- The transition from adolescence to adulthood is the stage when one struggles to accomplish separateness. The goal is to know “I am the one making my decisions. I am not simply a puppet on a string, or an extension of someone’s will.” It is a time of breaking away to define oneself as an individual through trial and error of my own choices, uninfluenced by an authority figure. Parents must try prevent a fracture in the relationship though it is greatly strained.
From a spiritual perspective- “Raise your kids in the way they should go and when they are OLDER they will not depart from it.” The brain isn’t even finished growing until 22 years of age (obviously). I can’t imagine the ache from watching your child make bad decisions, but God uses it all. People with perfect families can’t minister to anybody. Only humble broken people who have seen God move in desperate situations have a testimony. No one appreciates freedom till we have experienced bondage. Those who have been forgiven much love much. Many have mediocre relationships with God until receiving his love and grace when we don’t deserve it. That is what sets a heart on fire and fuels us to pursue him. Passion comes when we get a revelation on grace. Faith is believing what you cannot see. Set your mind that your children are blessed because they are chosen by God. Right now you may be the only one making a positive confession for your kids releasing faith for the angels to work with. Don’t let the enemy have that it may prolong this process.
Lord I pray you will fill these parents with all joy and peace that they may overflow with hope by the power of your holy spirit. I thank you that the happiness of their future is not determined by their current circumstances. I pray they will be filled with peace as though they have not a care in this world because your power sustains them. You are their strength. We trust in you fully and we lift their children up to you. You can make a way where there seems to be no way. You are the one who gives us a new heart and puts a new spirit in us. We believe our kids will fulfill your calling on their lives. We cast down every lie of the enemy that says otherwise. Help us to surrender this situation fully to you today. In Jesus name, Amen.